Lord of the rings: A rock has its etiquette
- Jill Spitznass
- Portland Tribune - Features
As if the slogan 'Is two months' salary too much for something that lasts forever?' wasn't enough, even Emily Post, the late queen of etiquette, put the pressure on men to 'think big' when it came to purchasing a diamond: A man should 'buy an engagement ring that's as handsome as he can afford,' she instructed.
But if things go south and it's a 50/50 proposition that they will, according to the 2002 census report there are rules about who gets to keep the symbol of the love that was.
In the case of a broken engagement, etiquette requires the woman to return the ring to the man. (However, if the cur has run off with the woman's best friend, no one would fault her for hocking it.)
D-I-V-O-R-C-E? The rules change. The court generally considers the ring to be a gift to the woman, although a guy can get the ring back if a prenuptial agreement calls for it.