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There is no reset on real life consequences

It was bound to happen sooner or later. The amazing technology of video cameras, their clarity, their reduced size, the ability to take them with us, the hardware to mount them just about anywhere, even on our heads.

You combine that with extreme sports, and our desire to share our experiences with others, to post our videos and let others see what we see, and it was bound to happen.

DAVE WENZELWe see a lot of death on video — movies; games; morning, afternoon and evening news.

A new perspective is to be upfront and close as death comes to a person wearing the camera on their head. Such a thing occurred, and the mother of the victim decided to share it, hoping to prevent a similar death.

David Holmes was a long time motorcycle enthusiast. On the fateful day he was traveling at speeds of up to 100 mph. As he started his ride he had activated a camera on his helmet.

His mother, Brenda, and the police investigators decided that releasing the video could perhaps act as a deterrent to other people tempted to speed, and as a warning to motorists to watch carefully for motorcycles.

Before you leave this column and start Googling it, please give me a moment longer.

It is an upsetting video.



The first time I watched my heart did a skip-pound-thing. Oddly, it isn’t anything particularly “graphic” by today’s standards. You’ll see worse graphic violence on virtually any movie-program-game.

What is different is seeing what someone else sees right up to the moment that death comes out of nowhere, and it is over in less than a second.

One second alive, the next gone, quite literally. And you get to see what they saw, and how quickly death can come. He died instantly on impact.

Second, and more importantly, don’t watch the 35 second YouTube video. Watch the video released jointly by his mother and the police.

It is about two minutes long and is worth it, because it gives a context for the life that is lost. Simply search for “Brenda Holmes UK motorcycle death.”

Our kids see too much detached death: people dying in movies and video games, where there is always a reset button.

Lest you feel that I am being morbid, death has always served as a reality check, getting those of us living thinking about priorities, like how I want to spend my time and who is important to me.

Detached death doesn’t do this.

Joining David on his motorcycle ride is very different. This video demonstrates just how quickly a video game adrenaline rush in real life can bring an untimely end.

I am having all my kids watch this.

I recommend that you locate it, watch it yourself to see if you think it is appropriate for your kids, and then have them watch. Be sure to talk with them afterward. Hopefully it will fulfill the wishes of David's mother, that at least one person be spared from succumbing to a need for speed.

FIND IT ONLINE

This is the link to the YouTube video posted by Brenda Holmes and police, demonstrating the real-life consequences of the need for speed:

http://bit.ly/1tf6o5F

Longtime Sandy resident Dr. Dave Wenzel is a parent, a professor of counseling and a licensed professional counselor. He works with children, individuals, families and couples. His office, River Ridge Counseling, is located in Sandy. He may be reached at 503-803-0444 or at davidwenzel@riverridgecounseling.com.

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