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Caring From a Distance

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Marcie Jones, GENTOGMany families face having to care for a loved one with dementia. Families are often separated by many miles, and the burden of care falls to one sibling. This can be a tough dynamic. Without good communication and a lot of love, this can be a disaster that separates siblings. But it doesn't have to be that way. If you are the child that lives several states away, you can still help!

Schedule your vacations around Mom and Dad. Not every vacation, just once or twice a year spend some time with them. Give your sibling a few days off while you take on the daily care.

Call regularly. Make it a habit to call Mom on your way to work or during your evening walk. Listen closely, support your parents emotionally. Let them know that you love them and have time for them. And if you hear something different, pay attention. You can be a caregiving partner from a distance if you stay in touch.

Call your sibling regularly. Check in weekly to see how they are doing. Do they need anything? Bounce around ideas. Let them vent. Listen, be supportive.

The best gift my sister-in-law has ever given me was the words, "You are the one that is there. Whatever you decide, we'll support." I AM the one that is here, and I see the day-to-day. I am the one that will likely make decisions. But it's so much easier knowing my siblings have my back.

Pray for us. We need strength, courage, patience, faith and wisdom to make the right decisions.

Simply put, if you can't be there physically, be there emotionally. One sibling may be the designated caregiver, but caring for an elderly parent is definitely a family project.


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